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Writer's pictureKylie

Crossing Bridges or Burning Them: Navigating Life's Transitions

In my journey through personal and professional landscapes, I've often encountered bridges—literal crossroads where I've had to decide whether to advance by setting the past ablaze or to carefully maintain connections that bind me to what I've left behind. Inspired by the philosophy in "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, which advocates for the necessity of burning bridges to ensure there's no retreat, I find myself reflecting on the bridges I've crossed, the ones I've burned, and the ones I've painstakingly preserved.



The Case for Burning Bridges

The decision to burn a bridge can be a powerful declaration of commitment. It symbolizes a clear break from the past: a decision that propels you forward, ensuring that the only way left to go is ahead. In my career, I've had moments where the only path to growth was to leave behind toxic environments and relationships. The liberation from these negative influences often came with a surge of forward momentum, a freedom that allowed me to pursue my goals without the weight of past burdens. This decisive act of burning a bridge is not just about cutting off; it's about actively choosing a path that fosters growth and prioritizes mental health and well-being.


On the flip side, burning bridges can sometimes mean taking a leap of faith. It's about making a bold move when the safety nets are gone, where the necessity of moving forward becomes not just a motivational push but a requirement for survival and success. It is here, in these moments of complete commitment, that the true test of our resolve and our dreams takes shape. By eliminating the possibility of retreat, we might find ourselves more focused, driven, and innovative than ever before.


The Value of Keeping Bridges

Yet, for every bridge I've burned, I've kept another intact. These are the connections that have shaped who I am: colleagues who've become confidants, challenges that turned into lessons, and past experiences that serve as reminders of how far I've come. These bridges are lifelines to my past that also provide support and structure to my present. They remind me of my roots and the diverse experiences that have contributed to my resilience and success. Maintaining these connections doesn't just serve nostalgia; it's a strategic choice that fosters continuity and stability in both personal and professional realms.


Moreover, the bridges we choose to maintain can serve as vital conduits for collaboration and support. They link us to others who can offer perspective, advice, and companionship. In many instances, these maintained bridges have allowed me to reach back to valuable mentors and peers for guidance, or simply to share successes and setbacks. They reinforce the notion that while our paths must be our own, the journey need not be lonely, and the triumphs are best when shared.


The Balance Between Moving Forward and Looking Back

Navigating life's transitions isn't just about choosing which bridges to burn but also deciding which ones to cross back over when needed. It's a delicate balance between moving forward and honoring the past. After many years, I can still reach out to former colleagues who remain part of my support network. They have witnessed the fluctuations of my life and career, providing not just memories but also motivation and validation. This balanced approach helps me to appreciate my journey without living in the past, recognizing that progress often requires both letting go and holding on.


This balance is crucial. While some bridges are best left to ashes—particularly those leading back to what can traumatize or hinder us—others should be treasured and maintained, not just for our sake but as beacons for others who might follow in our footsteps. The wisdom lies not in an all-or-nothing approach but in discerning which connections will help us grow and which will hold us back. As we make these decisions, we define the architecture of our lives, constructing a unique pathway through which we navigate our dreams and ambitions.


In conclusion, as we stride towards our goals—be they in career, family, or personal growth—we must choose wisely which bridges to burn and which to fortify. Each decision plays a crucial role in the landscape of our lives. As you reflect on your own bridges, consider which have carried you to the next chapter and which might need to be let go to embrace what lies ahead fully.


Take care of you too, KO x

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